孫運璿

台灣政壇知名行政院長孫運璿，生前曾給兒子寫過一封信，這封信最近才流傳出來，並很快的流傳於各大網站，很多父親看後感觸很深，其實這信適合所有人看！

[下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見]----孫運璿送給兒子的備忘錄

我兒：寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：

（一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好。

（二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說這些事?

（三）這備忘錄記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得來的體驗，可以為你的成長省不少冤枉路。

以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：

（一）對你不好的人，你不要太介意，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你務必搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。

（二）沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有。看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是什麼大不了的事。

（三）生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。

（四）世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你所謂的最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。

（五）雖然很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等於不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器，可以白手興家，但不可手無寸鐵，謹記！

（六）我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地，我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大可以獨立時，我的責任已經完結。以後，你要坐巴士還是賓士，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。

（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒增不必要的煩惱。

（八）我買了十多二十年的六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上沒有免費午餐。

（九）親人只有一次的緣分，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，都請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。

By: Anmax Chen

Get Angry?

When Tempers Flare

Do you lose your temper and wonder why? Are there days when you feel like you just wake up angry?

Some of it may be the changes your body's going through: All those hormones you hear so much about can cause mood swings and confused emotions. Some of it may be stress: People who are under a lot of pressure tend to get angry more easily. Part of it may be your personality: You may be someone who feels your emotions intensely or tends to act impulsively or lose control. And part of it may be your role models: Maybe you've seen other people in your family blow a fuse when they're mad.

No matter what pushes your buttons, one thing is certain — you're sure to get angry sometimes. Everyone does. Anger is a normal emotion, and there's nothing wrong with feeling mad. What counts is how we handle it (and ourselves) when we're angry.

Tools to Tame a Temper: Self-Awareness and Self-Control

Because anger can be powerful, managing it is sometimes challenging. It takes plenty of self-awareness and self-control to manage angry feelings. And these skills take time to develop.

Self-awareness is the ability to notice what you're feeling and thinking, and why. Little kids aren't very aware of what they feel, they just act it out in their behavior. That's why you see them having tantrums when they're mad. But teens have the mental ability to be self-aware. When you get angry, take a moment to notice what you're feeling and thinking.

Self-control is all about thinking before you act. It puts some precious seconds or minutes between feeling a strong emotion and taking an action you'll regret.

Together, self-awareness and self-control allow you to have more choice about how to act when you're feeling an intense emotion like anger.

Getting Ready to Make a Change

Deciding to get control of your anger — rather than letting it control you — means taking a good hard look at the ways you've been reacting when you get mad. Do you tend to yell and scream or say hurtful, mean, disrespectful things? Do you throw things, kick or punch walls, break stuff? Hit someone, hurt yourself, or push and shove others around?

For most people who have trouble harnessing a hot temper, reacting like this is not what they want. They feel ashamed by their behavior and don't think it reflects the real them, their best selves.

Everyone can change — but only when they want to. If you want to make a big change in how you're handling your anger, think about what you'll gain from that change. More self-respect? More respect from other people? Less time feeling annoyed and frustrated? A more relaxed approach to life? Remembering why you want to make the change can help.

It can also help to remind yourself that making a change takes time, practice, and patience. It won't happen all at once. Managing anger is about developing new skills and new responses. As with any skill, like playing basketball or learning the piano, it helps to practice over and over again.

The Five-Step Approach to Managing Anger

If something happens that makes you feel angry, this approach can help you manage your reaction. It's called a problem-solving approach because you start with the problem you're mad about. Then you weigh your choices and decide what you'll do.

Each step involves asking yourself a couple of questions, then answering them based on your particular situation.

Let's take this example: There's a party you're planning to go to, but your mom just told you to clean your room or stay home. The red-hot anger starts building.

Here's what to do:

1) Identify the problem (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you're angry about and why. Put into words what's making you upset so you can act rather than react.

Ask yourself: What's got me angry? What am I feeling and why? You can do this either in your mind or out loud, but it needs to be clear and specific. For example: "I'm really angry at Mom because she won't let me go to the party until I clean my room. It's not fair!" Your feeling is anger, and you're feeling angry because you might not get to go to the party.

Notice that this is not the same as saying, "Mom's so unfair to me." That statement doesn't identify the specific problem (that you can't go to the party until you clean your room) and it doesn't say how you're feeling (angry).

2) Think of potential solutions before responding (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It's also where you start thinking of how you might react — but without reacting yet.

Ask yourself: What can I do? Think of at least three things. For example, in this situation you might think:

(a) I could yell at Mom and throw a fit.
(b) I could clean my room and then ask if I could go to the party.
(c) I could sneak out to the party anyway.

3) Consider the consequences of each solution (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.

Ask yourself: What will happen for each one of these options? For example:

(a) Yelling at your mom may get you in worse trouble or even grounded.
(b) Cleaning your room takes work and you may get to the party late (but maybe that adds to your mystique). With this option, you get to go to the party and your room's clean so you don't have to worry about it for a while.
(c) Sneaking out may seem like a real option in the heat of anger. But when you really think it through, it's pretty unlikely you'd get away with being gone for hours with no one noticing. And when you do get caught — look out!

4) Make a decision (pick one of your options). This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and pick the one that is likely to be most effective.

Ask yourself: What's my best choice? By the time you've thought it through, you're probably past yelling at your mom, which is a knee-jerk response. You may have also decided that sneaking out is too risky. Neither of these options is likely to get you to the party. So option (b) probably seems like the best choice.

Once you choose your solution, then it's time to act.

5) Check your progress. After you've acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.

Ask yourself: How did I do? Did things work out as I expected? If not, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked out after it's all over is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and it allows you to test which problem-solving approaches work best in different situations.

Give yourself a pat on the back if the solution you chose worked out well. If it didn't, go back through the five steps and see if you can figure out why.

These five steps are pretty simple when you're calm, but are much tougher to work through when you're angry or sad (kind of like in basketball practice when making baskets is much easier than in a real game when the pressure is on!). So it helps to practice over and over again.

Other Ways to Manage Anger

The five-step approach is good when you're in a particular situation that's got you mad and you need to decide what action to take. But other things can help you manage anger too.

Try these things even if you're not mad right now to help prevent angry feelings from building up inside.

• Exercise. Go for a walk/run, work out, or go play a sport. Lots of research has shown that exercise is a great way to improve your mood and decrease negative feelings.

• Listen to music (with your headphones on). Music has also been shown to change a person's mood pretty quickly. And if you dance, then you're exercising and it's a two-for-one.
• Write down your thoughts and emotions. You can write things in lots of ways; for example, in a journal or as your own poetry or song lyrics. After you've written it down, you can keep it or throw it away — it doesn't matter. The important thing is, writing down your thoughts and feelings can improve how you feel. When you notice, label, and release feelings as they show up in smaller portions, they don't have a chance to build up inside.
• Draw. Scribbling, doodling, or sketching your thoughts or feelings might help too.
• Meditate or practice deep breathing. This one works best if you do it regularly, as it's more of an overall stress management technique that can help you use self-control when you're mad. If you do this regularly, you'll find that anger is less likely to build up.

• Talk about your feelings with someone you trust. Lots of times there are other emotions, such as fear or sadness, beneath anger. Talking about them can help.
• Distract yourself. If you find yourself stewing about something and just can't seem to let go, it can help to do something that will get your mind past what's bugging you — watch TV, read, or go to the movies.

These ideas can be helpful for two reasons:

1. They help you cool down when you feel like your anger might explode. When you need to cool down, do one or more of the activities in the list above. Think of these as alternatives to taking an action you'll regret, such as yelling at someone. Some of them, like writing down feelings, can help you release tension and begin the thinking process at the same time.
2. They help you manage anger in general. What if there's no immediate problem to solve — you simply need to shift into a better mood? Sometimes when you're angry, you just need to stop dwelling on how mad you are.

When to Ask for Extra Help

Sometimes anger is a sign that more is going on. People who have frequent trouble with anger, who get in fights or arguments, who get punished, who have life situations that give them reason to often be angry may need special help to get a problem with anger under control.

Tell your parents, a teacher, a counselor, or another adult you trust if any of these things have been happening:

• You have a lasting feeling of anger over things that have either happened to you in the past or are going on now.
• You feel irritable, grumpy, or in a bad mood more often than not.
• You feel consistent anger or rage at yourself.
• You feel anger that lasts for days or makes you want to hurt yourself or someone else.
• You're often getting into fights or arguments.

These could be signs of depression or something else — and you shouldn't have to handle that alone.

Anger is a strong emotion. It can feel overwhelming at times. Learning how to deal with strong emotions — without losing control — is part of becoming more mature. It takes a little effort, a little practice, and a little patience, but you can get there if you want to.

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: September 2010
Originally reviewed by: Matthew K. Nock, PhD

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.


As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2.Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.

4.Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11.Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12.Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13.Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14.Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17.Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18.Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19.Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21.Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23.Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.

24.Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25.Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26.Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28.Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30.Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

You’ve got mail

Technology lets us take things for granted ... spare a thought for the old way of doing things.

YOU couldn’t have missed the full-page, colour advertisement in the front half of this newspaper a few days ago. It certainly caught my eye. Against an scenic aerial backdrop of a muddy river winding its way through a dense green forest were the words – “Can a GPS find an incomplete address?”

Below that ... “A postman can.”

Then, a few more words about about how a postman knows his territory like the back of his hand, through years of familiarity with the locals.

It was a Pos Malaysia advert, reminding us that despite all the technology available these days, nothing can quite substitute the “human” factor.

I thought it was a nice one. We’re so swept up and away by the technology around us, we seldom spare a thought for the human cogs that make the wheels of daily life revolve.

Today, in modern cities where people are trapped in their offices or cars through the day, few of us really have time for snail mail, as the popular expression goes. Heck, even at home, the mail in your letter box is mostly the unwanted or unwelcomed kind – bills, statements and demands from banks, credit card companies, or some government authority or utility outfit.

We seldom wait for the postman to deliver news from a loved one; personal mail is now the prerogative of new communications technology. It’s either email or SMS, few of us write letters to post any more. Even greeting cards – birthday or seasonal – can be whittled down to 142 characters on a mobile phone screen.

The Pos Malaysia advert took me back to a time when communicating with people across great distances was a much more personal endeavour – you wrote letters. The postman delivered letters from loved ones to your home. Inevitably, you built up a rapport with your mail man. His delivery times were part of your daily routine.

Heavy rain or blistering heat, he would unfailingly complete his rounds, on a bicycle back then. At least, where I grew up, that was his mode of transport.

The days when I was expecting a letter from my father – who was away most of the time – or a close friend, I would wait anxiously at the gate for the postman to arrive. Sometimes, there would be nothing and the postman would notice me waiting. He would acknowledge my presence with a sympathetic shake of his head, as if saying, “Sorry, laddie, nothing for you today.”

Other times, he could sense he was delivering a much expected missive, and he would cycle up smiling, and hand over the letter. Sometimes, it would be a postal order you were expecting or registered mail. It was usually good news – that was why the postman was so important, so much a part of the good things in your life. Back then, you got worried only when it was a telegram. Yeah, remember those?

These days, postmen may whizz about in motorbikes but their job is no less taxing. We just generally have no time or inclination to stop and think about what they do. They brave the elements even during the fasting month – sometimes, you can see them parked under a shady tree at noon, arms folded across the motorbike’s handles, head on arms, as if summonning some inner strength to complete the job for the day.

Here’s a comforting thought – if all the satellite and communication systems across the globe were to break down simultaneously, you can be assured there will still be a system of delivery by men who will carry the mail to the most remotely inhabited corners. Incomplete address and all ...

Friday July 23, 2010

NOT TODAY
By Sujesh Pavithran

Source: www.thestar.com.my

How to Counter Resistance to Change

Across the table from my most important and challenging client, I faced a conflict that required a delicate and sophisticated approach if I was to achieve the outcome I wanted. This client is by far the savviest negotiator I've ever faced and she's driven to win. The conversation went something like this:

"Daddy, what's for dessert?" Isabelle was six at the time. Willpower was not one of her "areas needing development."

"Well let's see, you can have an apple or some grapes."

"I want ice cream."

"That's not one of the choices, Sweetie. Do you want an apple or grapes?"

"Ice cream."

We went on like that for a few minutes and then she said, "If I can't have ice cream then I want a banana."

"Hmm," I responded, "that's not one of the choices but that's OK too. I'll get you one."

"Thanks Daddy," she said, clearly happy. Was she happy to have a banana or happy to have gotten something that was not one of the choices I offered?

It doesn't matter. Because my goal wasn't to break her will or show her who's boss. I was going for a very specific and clear outcome: nothing less than to build in her a lifelong habit of healthy eating. I wanted her to eat fruit for dessert and (this is the challenging part) be happy about it.

Having others work hard to achieve a goal you've set — not because you're forcing them to but because they choose to — is exactly the challenge leaders face in organizations every day.

And succeeding in it makes all the difference. For the employee it's the difference between being micromanaged and being self-motivated. For the organization it's the difference between passive resistance and energized alignment. And for you, the leader, it's the difference between frustrating exhaustion and inspired collaboration.

The job of a leader or manager (and these days who isn't a leader or a manager in one form or another?) is simple: to influence people. And there's one defining idea we have in our heads that makes that job harder.

We believe that people resist change.

So we do all sorts of things to counter that resistance. We try to motivate or coerce people to change.

But instead of breaking through resistance, we create it. People resist being controlled. And so 70% of all corporate change efforts fail.

Here's what's interesting: people freely choose to make major life changes every day. We move, get married, start families, face challenges, learn new technologies, change jobs, and develop new skills. Not all of these changes are smooth. But most of the time we seek those changes ourselves and make them successfully.

So why are people willing to change in one situation and resistant to it in another?

Because people don't resist change, they resist being changed.

In their personal lives people usually make their own choices. But in organizations they feel coerced. And so they use the only power they have to regain control: resistance.

To avoid the resistance? Give them control. Let them make decisions. If you offer them two choices (apple or grapes) and they pick a third (banana) you have the opportunity to cede control to them as long as their choice achieves the outcome acceptable to you (fruit). Then they own their decision and are happy with it because they made it themselves.

The key is to make it real. If you try to trick people into thinking they have control when they don't, you'll lose credibility. You have to actually give them some control, while keeping some for yourself, because as a manager, you're always accountable for the outcome.

So here are the three steps:


1. Define the outcome you want.

2. Suggest a path to achieve it.

3. Allow people to reject your path as long as they choose an alternate route to the same destination.


For example, if you want managers to have career development conversations with employees, propose a method of having those conversations. If managers disagree, ask them what they'd prefer to do and when they offer an alternative, as long as it gets employees and managers talking, accept it.

Same idea if you're rolling out a new technology, sales process, HR practice, or (fill in the blank). Don't sell it or try to get "buy-in." Instead of seeking agreement, try to surface disagreement. That gives you the opportunity to allow people to make changes, there on the spot. And then they become accountable.

Or let's say you need an aligned, focused, collaborative senior team but two of the top team members can't seem to work together. Put them in a room and explain to them the negative impact they're having on the business. Then ask what they want to do about it.

Yesterday Isabelle (now seven) was upset about something her friend did in school. She asked me to speak with her friend's mother. I didn't immediately say I wouldn't, though I clearly knew I wouldn't.

The outcome I want is for her to develop confidence in her ability to solve her own problems and also feel supported by me. So I asked her what she wanted me to say to her friend's mother. She told me and then I offered her two choices: she could say that to her friend or she could say it to her friend's mother. She didn't like either choice so she opted for the banana: she would say it to her friend and her friend's mother at the same time, while holding my hand.

Often a banana is the sweetest dessert there is.

Source: Peter Bregman
URL: http://blogs.hbr.org/bregman/2009/04/how-to-counter-resistance-to-c.html

How to Make Your Girlfriend Never Forget You

There’s one thing that will make you stand out from all the other guys in the world and that is the ability to inspire. Inspire your woman for a greater purpose. Change her from the inside, change the way she sees the world. Help her stand out and help her live a more happy life. Do it successfully and you’ll never be forgotten, for that I’m sure.

Don’t ever doubt if you can do this because yes, for sure you CAN! Help her find what she wants in life and make her understand and believe how important is to do it. Inspire her, change her, make her better. If you do it, you’ll naturally gain a special place in her life. Everyone is looking for something more. Find that something and help her achieve it, show her it’s possible. Teach her that the most important thing in life is to be happy. Help her find the way to be so. If she is already, help her be even more.

Leave something inside every girl that is special for you and you’ll never be one more guy in her life – you’ll be the man who changed her. Be a before and after in her life. Years will go by and perhaps many men will go through her life, but you will never be one more. Make her discover what she wants in life, in a man, or any aspect of her existence. Do it. Do it from your heart, believe what you say and what you tell them. Don’t bluff, be a great man. Down to earth, human but ambitious – make it clear that dreams should be high.

Definitely it’s not easy to be an inspirational figure, but it’s worth it to go all the way to become one. You have to speak about your and her dreams, what’s all you want in life. And you have to remind her and yourself that the key for happiness and success is to make all these dreams come true. Show her the way and do the impossible yourself, defeat all the pessimists and leave your girl shocked.

For example, at a dinner in Vienna I swore in front of all my friends I would learn how to speak German in just two months. Those who didn’t know me laughed and those you did know me looked at me strangely. Two months later, speaking fluently and working with the language, I left everyone speechless. Break your heart working for your dreams, push your limits to the highest you can imagine.

Set the example with yourself. If your objective is to get a beautiful woman for girlfriend, work like crazy for it. Turn the world around and don’t be afraid! Do it, work for your dreams. If this is what you dream, it will deserve all the attention and commitment in the world, all your effort. Find your purpose and don’t lie down.

Never give up, pursue your dreams until the last moment of your life, until your very last breath. Never, never settle for less! Be crazy about your dreams and teach her how to be too.

Source: beautifulwomendating.com

北馬人的KUK！

今天在看小說時，發現理頭有一張舊剪報 ....所以想和大家分享...

從吉隆坡趕車趕到吉打州的毛毛，想到要找個朋友出來吃飯，就打電話給住在亞羅士打的阿安：" 喂，你吃飽了沒有？"

阿安懶懶的聲音從電話那端傳來："還沒有KUK ！"

又累又餓的毛毛急得不得了，自己的肚子敲鏤打鼓了，問阿安吃飽了沒有，他卻答非所問的說沒有" 谷"（KUK）， "谷"甚麼鬼嘛！

誰說阿安答非所問了，他講還沒有"KUK" 啊！還沒有"KUK"就是還沒有吃飽的意思啦！

慣用銜接語"KUK" 是北馬人慣用的"銜接語" ，意思相等於 "啦"，但是這個 "KUK"卻有一定的 " 用法"，你可不能是不是也 "亂亂 KUK"， "KUK "錯就笑掉人家的大牙了。

這個"KUK" ，最常用在人家問你吃飽了沒有的時候。如果還沒有吃，北馬人十個中會有九個回答說："還沒有 KUK "，他這樣回答是說他還沒有吃的意思。

但是如果已經吃飽了，你要回答："吃飽了 " ，千萬不要自作聰明的說："吃飽KUK " 。都已經吃飽了，還谷甚麼啦！

"KUK"通常都是銜接在 "還沒有"做的事情或 " 還沒有"做的動詞的後面，當作是一種很自然的銜接尾音，比如工作還沒有做好 KUK、對方還沒有回電KUK、還沒有沖涼 KUK 、還沒有來KUK......。

"KUK"雖是常常接在 "還沒有"的後面，但是同時也有另一個意思，表示 "還有"的意思，比如人家問你手上還有工作嗎，如果和有就要答 "有KUK" 、問你盒子里還有糖果嗎。銀行里還有錢嗎、如果還有就可以答："有 KUK "。

勿亂用"KUK"
除此，北馬人回答問題時，如果他答"不要" ，就表示他真的不要，但是，要是他答： "不要KUK" 時，你可得注意了。

舉分例子，如果你切了蘋果，問他要不要吃，他一旦答"不要KUK "，你千萬不要把盤子內的蘋果吃光。

注意哦，他答的是"不要KUK " 而不是"不要 " ，因為北馬人的"不要KUK " 的意思就是現在暫時還不要，等一下才要的意思..... 。

北馬人的一個"KUK" ，就是這樣可以把整個句子的意思扭轉掉，除了北馬人，并非人人都可以輕易"掌握 "到"KUK" 的奧妙之處。

所以不要亂亂用"KUK" ，去講甚麼"我吃飽KUK、我睡醒 KUK、我神經KUK...."KUK到笑死人卻還不知道KUK！

Are there a 1 per cent (%) tax rate reduction?

As all Malaysia tax payer notice that there was an announcement by the government on 1% tax rate deduction of chargeable income bracket group between RM35k-RM50k and above RM250k respectively. This deduction with taken effect from year of assessment 2008.

On my previous post mentioning additional benefits that been announced during budget 2009.

http://jlim16.blogspot.com/2009/03/pain-in-my-pocket-year-of-assessment.html

"the Government has also reduced the tax rate by 1% from 13% to 12% for the RM35,000 to RM50,000 chargeable income bracket group; and 1% from 28% to 27% for the RM250,000 highest chargeable income bracket group."


However, from many of my friends also notice that there is no 1% tax rate deduction for tax payer fall under the mentioned chargeable income bracket group, which mean it is still maintain as 13% instead of 12% as promised.



Image captured on April 14, 2009

In the e-borang (http://www.hasil.org.my/), tax payer are unable to make modification of the tax rate, it is calculated automatically by the system and we have no where to raise the complaint.

Although it is only 1% reduction (a.k.a RM150), that is still our money that we are promised to have discounted by the respective government department.

The question is, are they going to break their promise "again" ?

Where the hell is Matt?

Hi, I watch this video today (13 Apr 2009) and I feel its owesome, you try...



Uploaded by Matt Harding on June 20, 2006
I had a great time making this. Hope you enjoy it.

Finish watching the first video then only watch the below one, thanks.


The next video was 2 years after, its different... trust me...



Uploaded by Matt Harding on June 20, 2008
14 months in the making, 42 countries, and a cast of thousands. Thanks to everyone who danced with me.

Source: www.wherethehellismatt.com

Thank you.

Why do you whine?

Whining is something that we all do, but the question is why? When you whine nothing really happens other than you sounding like a baby. And if you sound like a baby then you are probably going to be treated like one. But seriously, why do people whine?

Over the last few weeks I have heard dozens of people whine and the most common one was:

Why doesn’t anyone fund my business idea? Trixie and Biff got venture capital funding and my idea is much better than theirs!

When you whine your problems don’t get solved because you are spending all your time whining instead of fixing. So the next time you are upset and are about to whine, do the following:

1. Take all the IF’s and BUTs out of your head. It doesn’t matter if Trixie or Biff had a better outcome; this is you we are talking about and not them.

2. Think about the situation and why it happened the way it did.

3. If another party was involved, think about the situation from their perspective. If another party was not involved, think about the situation from a neutral perspective (I know this is hard, but you can do it).

4. List out all the possible ways you can potentially change the situation to be favorable for you.
Try and fix the situation using one of the ways you listed out. If things go your way, that’s great. If things don’t go your way or if the situation can’t be changed, then learn from it and move on.

5. Life is not perfect and we all whine about things (even me), but you’re more likely to succeed if you think about things from a logical perspective instead of an emotional whiny perspective.

P/S: Hopefully it didn’t sound like I was whining about people whining.

Source: http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/

Cheers

Antara pendatang dan penumpang!

Syed Imran is an Arab-Malaysian born in Penang, Malaysia, ex-Bernama
journalist (1971-1998) and former press secretary to Minister in PM's
Department


Monday, September 08, 2008 Antara pendatang dan penumpang


Pada mulanya saya agak keberatan nak ulas kekecohan yang berpunca
ekoran daripada kenyataan ketua UMNO bahagian Bukit Bendera, Pulau
Pinang bernama Ahmad bin Ismail. Sama ada benar atau tidak apa yang
didakwa dikatakan olehnya mengenai rakyat Malaysia keturunan Cina
bukan persoalannya kerana isu tersebut sudahpun merebak dan
mengapi-apikan keadaan.


Jika tidak ditangani dengan cermat, teliti dan bijak, isu itu boleh
ditangguk dalam air yang keruh oleh anasir-anasir yang ingin melihat
negara ini hancur serta mengundang campur tangan kuasa asing. Dalam
zaman dunia tanpa sempadan dan liputan meluas dan segera oleh media
elektronik antarabangsa, apa yang berlaku di sesebuah negara itu
tidak dapat disembunyi atau dinafikan.


Isu pokok yang dibangkitkan oleh Ahmad Ismail membabitkan persoalan
“menumpang” iaitu rakyat Malaysia keturunan Cina adalah penumpang di
negara ini. Beliau menjelaskan bahawa ia merujuk kepada zaman
pra-Merdeka. Bagaimanapun, sensitiviti rakyat Malaysia keturunan Cina
telah terguris.


Saya tidak mengenali secara peribadi Ahmad Ismail, tetapi kenal agak
rapat dengan Allahyarham abangnya, Abdul Rahim Ismail, pemilik
Syarikat Pembinaan Rahim yang pada satu ketika dahulu agak terkenal
sebagai sebuah firma pembinaan Bumiputera yang unggul di Pulau
Pinang. Saya tidak tahu apa dah jadi dengan syarikat itu selepas
Abdul Rahim meninggal dunia.


Secara peribadi, saya tidak setuju dengan apa yang didakwa dikata
oleh Ahmad Ismail atas beberapa sebab.


Bagi saya, hampir 90 peratus rakyat Malaysia, khususnya di
Semenanjung, adalah pendatang dan kita semua sebenarnya menumpang
hidup di bumi Allah. Kita bukan pemilik kekal tetapi hanya menumpang.


Sebagai contoh, saya sendiri adalah keturunan pendatang yang
menumpang hidup di bumi bertuah ini. Datuk nenek di sebelah bapa saya
berhijrah dari Makkah dan dari Brunei ke sini manakala di sebelah ibu
pula dari Hadhramut, Yaman. Kami adalah pendatang dan penumpang sama
seperti hampir semua penduduk negara ini khususnya di Pulau Pinang.


Bagi Ahmad Ismail, dia juga datang dari keluarga pendatang dan
menumpang hidup di negara ini. Ahmad Ismail tidak boleh menafikan
hakikat bahawa datuk neneknya adalah pendatang dari India untuk
menerokai penghidupan yang lebih baik dan selesa di bumi bertuah ini.


Perdana Menteri Abdullah bin Ahmad juga tergolong dalam kategori yang
sama. Datuknya di sebelah ibu adalah pendatang dari wilayah Guandong,
China. Pendek kata, datuk Pak Lah iaitu bapa Allahyarhamah Kailan
bernama Hassan Salleh atau Hah Su Chiang adalah seorang pendatang.
Beliau berhijrah ke Tanah Melayu dari wilayah Guandong (Kwantung)
pada pertengahan abad ke-19 dan menetap di Bayan Lepas sebagai
pekebun getah, pesawah padi dan kemudian saudagar intan berlian.


Najib Tun Razak, Timbalan PM juga berasal daripada keluarga pendatang
iaitu dari Sulawesi, Indonesia atau lebih senang disebut orang Bugis
manakala sepupunya Hishamudin Hussein tidak terlepas daripada darah
keturunan Turki.


Datuk nenek mantan PM Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad juga pendatang dari
Kerala, India manakala ibu Almarhum Tunku Abul Rahman berasal dari
negeri Siam (Thailand).


Kesultanan Melayu Melaka pun dibuka oleh orang pendatang dari Sumatra
bernama Parameswara, seorang anak raja atau bangsawan beragama Hindu.


Dalam sejarah kesultanan Melayu, kita dapati ada yang ditubuh oleh
pendatang dari Bugis dan ada pula dari Hadhramut selain dari
Minangkabau.


Hampir semua orang Melayu di sini berasal dari luar Tanah Melayu
tetapi diiktiraf sebagai “bangsa Melayu” oleh Perlembagaan
Persekutuan. Kita adalah “Melayu mengikut takrifan Perlembagaan”
iaitu beragama Islam, mengamalkan adat resam Melayu dan bertutur
dalam bahasa Melayu. Malangnya, bahasa Melayu nampaknya dimatikan
oleh orang Melayu (UMNO) sendiri apabila dinamakan sebagai bahasa
Malaysia.


Oleh itu, orang Arab seperti Syed Hamid Albar dan saya, orang Aceh
seperti Sanusi Junid, orang India seperti Kader Sheikh Fadzir dan Nor
Mohamed Yakcop, orang Bugis seperti Najib, orang Minang seperti Rais
Yatim, orang Jawa seperti Mohamad Rahmat dan yang lain seperti dari
Madura, Pulau Boyan, Siam, Burma, Yunnan (China) dan selatan Filipina
dengan mudah boleh diiktirf sebagai “Melayu”.


Mereka diterima sebagai orang Melayu tidak kira sama ada mereka
bertutur bahasa Melayu atau tidak di rumah umpamanya si Arab
berbahasa Arab, si Jawa berbahasa Jawa dan si Minang berbahasa Minang
atupun si Mamak berbahasa Tamil.


Bahasa-bahasa yang disebut itu bukan bahasa Melayu dan jika dilihat
dari sudut Perlembagaan Persekutuan, tidak boleh diterima atau
diiktiraf sebagai bangsa Melayu. Walau bagaimanapun, atas kepentingan
dan faktor politik, semuanya diterima sebagai Melayu dan Bumiputera.


Oleh itu, adalah tidak adil untuk menuding jari kepada orang Cina
yang juga kaum pendatang sama seperti orang Arab, India, Aceh,
Minang, Batak, Mandailing, Jawa, Madura mahupun Bugis, sebagai
menumpang di negeri ini. Kita tidak boleh menafikan bahawa sebilangan
besar datuk nenek orang Cina telah berhijrah ke negeri ini semasa
Kesultanan Melayu Melaka, bahkan kesultanan-kesultanan terdahulu di
Kedah mahupun Terengganu dan Kelantan serta semasa Francis Light
berjaya menipu Sultan Kedah untuk menduduki Pulau Pinang pada 1786.


Kita adalah kaum pendatang yang menumpang hidup di negeri ini.
Golongan yang boleh diiktiraf sebagai orang asal atau anak bumi tulen
adalah mereka yang kita kenali sebagai Negrito, Jakun, Semang, Jahut,
Orang Laut, Orang Darat, Senoi dan suku kaum masyarakat Asli lain
yang masih menjadi penghuni belantara.


Kita tidak harus lupa akan sumbangan dan pengorbanan semua kaum dan
suku kaum untuk membangunkan Malaysia sama ada dari sudut ekonomi,
kemasyarakatan, keselamatan dan yang paling penting kesepakatan dan
perpaduan. Semua orang yang kena dan seharusnya membayar cukai,
berbuat demikian tanpa mengira kaum atau asal keturunan, sama ada
pendatang atau penumpang.


Malaysia Maju!

Spending too much time in office? Read this.

HAVE you ever wondered why we tend to be more polite with total strangers than we are with our own family?

Think back the last time you accidentally bumped into a passer-by. I wouldn’t be surprised if you had said something like, “I’m sorry, please excuse me.”
Now think back to the time when you accidentally collided into your child at home. I wouldn’t be surprised at all if you had sternly retorted with “Can’t you see where you’re going?”

If you’re saying to yourself. “Yeah, it’s true”, you’re not alone.

When someone spoke to me about this recently, I had to sheepishly admit to him that I am one of those who are “guilty as charged”.

It would seem at first that these reactions are totally normal, but you need only look a sliver below the surface to realise that if we can be so polite to people we don’t even know, how much more we should be considerate and show courtesy to the people who are closest to us.

But why do we react the way we do? Is it familiarity that breeds contempt? Is it an ingrained unconscious habit to take things too much for granted at home? Or is it just something that’s intrinsic in our culture?

Think about this too: We pour ourselves into work so passionately that it often exceeds the enthusiasm and dedication which we are prepared to shower upon our families.

In the same breath, we readily acknowledge the fact that if we die tomorrow, the company we work for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

In spite of this, many of us continue to partake in such “unwise investments” which invariably yield poor rates of return. I know of people in my office who spend so much time at work that they jest about knowing more about their fellow colleagues than their own spouse and kids. For me, this is no laughing matter.

Here’s a story I heard some years ago:

A professor stood before his philosophy class with some items in front of him.
When the class began, he picked up a very large and empty glass jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked
once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous “yes”. The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor.
“I want you to recognise that this jar represents your life. The golf balls represent the important things – your family, your health, your children, your friends, your passions – the kind of stuff that if all else was lost and only these remained, your life would still be full.

“The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house, your car.
“The sand is everything else – the small stuff.
“If you put the sand into the jar first, there will be no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.”

You know, the same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small things, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the elements that are critical to your happiness.

Play with your children. Set aside time for your medical check-ups.Help out at a charitable institution. Take your spouse out to dinner.

Don’t worry. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the hinge on that cupboard door.

Take care of the golf balls first; the rest is just sand.

Wrirter: Geoff Tan

Complementary packages from Hong Kong Tourism Board

I got a card from Poslaju under my house main door when I got home last night. Just wonder what that is...

Went to post office just now and guess what, letters are from Hong Kong Tourism Board.

In the envelope:

1) Letter from HKTB

2) Letter of complementary for 3 nights stay in HK Hotel listed by HKTB

3) Letter of complementary for 1 admission to Disneyland Hong Kong

4) Letter of complementary for 1 admission to Ocean Park including Lunch at restaurant.

5) Letter of complementary for 1 admission to Wetland Park Hong Kong

6) Letter of complementary for 1 pax of Hong Kong Island half day tour package

6) Letter of complementary meal voucher valued HK$500 for meal at Lan Kooi Fong restaurants

7) Letter of complementary for 1 pax round trip visit to Ugong Peng via cable car including HK$50 shopping voucher at the souvenir shop

All complementary vouchers are valid through 1 year until 30th of June 2009.
All complementary vouchers have no cash value and not transferable

The above set of complementary letters is for 1 person; my wife has another set of similar complementary letters. So to say we have doubled the package.

It is impressing that HKTB made such a complementary to recover incident of Tatami Hampton Hotel. The duty of HKTB is to take care of Hong Kong tourism industry, and yes, they are doing it very well.

My wife and I as victims in this incident, we were lost in the strange place when we were asked to leave the hotel at 10:30PM 17 June 2008. I explained to the reporter that I understand the situation where by the fault is not with HKTB nor HK government. All faults should be responsible by the Tatami Hampton Hotel itself.

Please look at my previous post for the incident descriptions.

Check related post: Tatami Hampton Hotel closed down on 18 June 2008


My wife and I are very happy to be treated well upon the incident; we would like to express our appreciation to the following parties:

Hong Kong Tourism Board 香港旅游发展局
http://www.hktb.com/sc/index.jsp

Hong Kong Consumer Council 香港消费者委员会
http://www.consumer.org.hk/website/ws_chi/

Hong Kong Police Force 皇家香港警察
http://sc.info.gov.hk/gb/www.police.gov.hk/hkp-home/chinese/index.htm


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多關懷我們身旁的人

儘可能多關懷我們身旁的人 - 無論是父母、夫妻、子女、朋友、同事 ,一個笑容 , 一聲問候 , 都可能改變一個悲劇的產生.

他是一位退休教授，跟老妻過著優游的生活，早上一起爬上小山崗舒展筋骨，下午他料理陽台的花草，又或看看雜誌，妻子則和朋友到咖啡室聊天。他們唯一的女兒，在美國定居。

月前的一個晚上，朦朧間他感到床墊濕了，是老妻尿床。 他推推她，發覺她已沒有反應。

「節哀順變。」不少親戚朋友說。「謝謝關心，我會的。」 他極有禮貌地回答，沒失方寸，一派學者風範。

暗地裡，他部署一切。
花草贈給鄰居，向人借的書籍郵寄送還，然後，走上律師樓立遺囑。全部準備好了。

在月圓的晚上，銀光薄薄的灑滿一室，他亮起微黃的檯燈，寫下最後的說話。
面前，是一瓶藥丸。瓶子上，他看見老妻微笑。就在他打開瓶蓋的時刻，電話響起。他拿起電話筒，一把熟悉的聲音傳來：「爸爸，我在機場，我好想陪陪你。」 他猛然醒覺。

老教授向我說完他的故事，喝一口香片，緩緩道：「最有效防止自殺的東西，不是學術修養，不是心理醫生，不是豐厚財富， 原來是一種簡簡單單的被愛感覺。」

因為重要，請多傳一次

1.這個社會病態報導多，鼓勵人心的少。
2.我們其實是他人豐厚財富的一部分，值得多存一些。

於是我轉寄了

Here In My HOME... Malaysia Rakyat Unity !!

When I first listen to this song, I was at the same reaction as huayphing, hmm... this song not bad, I wonder what the title is.

I the found the youtube video clip address, I paste it here so that I could share with you guys and ladies.

I love the way it describes Malaysia RAKYAT !!

Cheers


Here In My Home - Malaysian Artistes For Unity



        




Lyrics

Hold on brother hold on
The road is long, we're on stony ground
But I'm strong, and you ain't heavy
Oh there's a misspoken truth that lies
Colors don't bind, oh no
What do they know? They speak falsely

Here in my home
I'll tell you what it's all about
There's just one hope here in my heart
One love undivided
That's what it's all about
Please won't you fall in one by one by one with me?
(Fall in~ Fall in~)
Fall in with me
(hmm ... fall in~)
Fall in fall in fall in with me

Push back sister won't you push back?
Love won't wait, just keep pushing on
Yes I'm strong, you ain't heavy
Oh don't you worry about that ...
What we have shadows can't deny
Don't you know it's now or never?

Here in my home
I'll tell you what it's all about
There's just one hope here in my heart
One love undivided
That's what it's all about
Please won't you fall in one by one?

(dududu lululu ... alot of dululu until i micount them)

(Bahasa Malaysia)
Bertubi asakan berkurun lamanya
Hati ke depan mencari yang sayang
[Years of fears and years of tribulation
The heart keeps searching for that endless devotion]

(Bahasa Mandarin)
手牵手大家一起走，我们代表国人开口未来就没有丢走
shou qian shou da jia yi qi zou, wo men dai biao guo ren kai kou wei lai jiu mei you diu zou
[Hand in hand we'll march like blood brothers
I speak for my people, hope we'll find peace forever]

(Bahasa Tamil)
இந்த பயணம் பயணம்.. என் வெற்றி தாகம்,
அந்த கனா காலம்.. நம் வெற்றி ராகம்,
நண்பா.. நண்பா..
inthe payanam payanamm yen vettri thaagam
anthee kaana kaalam naam vetri raagam...nanba nanba
[May the road ahead quench my thirst for success
May the road behind echo a song of the blessed]

(Bahasa English)
Yes I feel it in my bones, so I will let it be known
No matter where I roam this is home sweet home

Sing!

Here in my home
I'll tell you what it's all about
There's just one hope here in my heart
One love undivided
That's what it's all about
Please won't you fall in one by one by one with me?
(yeah~ Yeah~)

Here in my home
(Here in my home)
I'll tell you what it's all about
(I'll tell you ...)
There's just one hope here in my heart
(one hope! one hope yo!)
One love undivided
(aa~ one~)
That's what it's all about
(That's what it's all about~)
Please won't you fall in one by one by one with me?

Here in my home
(Here in my home~)
I'll tell you what it's all about
There's just one hope here in my heart
(one love one love one love ^^)
One love undivided
That's what it's all about
Please won't you fall in one by one by one with me?
(clap clap clap woo~ i love you man)

Increase Petrol Price mean More $aving per Year for NGV users!

The petrol price increase from Rm1.92/litre to RM2.70/litre today (6 June 2008) which increase about 40% .

By referring to Petrol price for the past 18 years since 1990

before 1990 - RM 0.89
Year 1990 - RM 1.10 (increase RM 0.21)
01/10/2000- RM 1.20 (increase RM 0.10)
20/10/2001- RM 1.30 (increase RM 0.10)
01/05/2002- RM 1.32 (increase RM 0.02)
31/10/2002- RM 1.33 (increase RM 0.01)
01/03/2003- RM 1.35 (increase RM 0.02)
01/05/2004- RM 1.37 (increase RM 0.02)
01/10/2004- RM 1.42 (increase RM 0.05)
05/05/2005- RM 1.52 (increase RM 0.10)
31/07/2005- RM 1.62 (increase RM 0.10)
28/02/2006- RM 1.92 (increase RM 0.30)
04/06/2008- RM 2.70 (increase RM 0.78)

This is the worst increase in history.

With the increase of petrol price by 40%, see the below comparisons tawards NGV:

Price per Kilometer comparision
Petrol RM0.22 / km (at RM1.92/litre)
Petrol RM0.31 / km (at RM2.70/litre)
NGV RM0.06 / km (at RM0.68/litre)

Saving of RM0.16 /km (at RM1.92/litre)
Saving of RM0.25 /km (at RM2.70/litre)

that is about 73% saving (at RM1.92/litre)
that is about 80% saving (at RM2.70/litre)


Take an average of drive of 60km daily for 30 days per month.

Total distance 60 x 30 = 1800km
Total fuel price consume per month:Petrol RM0.22 x 1800 = RM396 (at RM1.92/litre)
Total fuel price consume per month:Petrol RM0.31 x 1800 = RM558 (at RM2.70/litre)
Natural Gas(CNG) RM0.06 x 2100 = RM108 (at RM0.68/litre)

Saving per month is RM288 (at RM1.92/litre)
Saving per month is RM450 (at RM2.70/litre)

Yearly Saving RM288 x 12 = Rm3456
Yearly Saving RM450 x 12 = Rm5400


Investment Point of View
If you were to get RM457 per month from bank for Fixed Deposit at 3.7% per year, you have to deposit RM148,243 in bank.


Price around RM2900 to RM3200 for Carburetor Car
Price around Rm5500 to RM6500 for Fuel Injection Car


Installment available for credit card user.
Use the saving for installment. Probably you got extra $ after paying the installment .

Worries?

1)Stop worry about queue ?

You can always find the right time to pump NGV. Furthermore, more and more has been built lately which mean less queue. The best about converting to NGV, you still have the option to use petrol, just in case run out of gas.

2) Worry no power?

Visit our forum. http://www.ngvcommunity.com on ways to increase power.

Is time to convert to NGV today!

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我命由我，不由天！！！

人常说命运天注定，我从来就没这么认为过，我觉的那不过是失败者的自我解嘲，懦弱者的自我安慰。经历了这么多年的风风雨雨、困难和挫折。让我深深的体会到在这个世界上没有任何人能够改变你，只有你自己。也没有任何人能够打败你，只有你自己。

其实命运就掌握在我们自己手里，你才是命运的主宰者。 上天对于我们每一个人都是公平的，机会是留给有准备的人的，无论遭遇什么，都要坚定自己心中的信念，坚强的走下去，成功往往就出现在失败后的再坚持一下。

也许我们走在自己人生奋斗的道路上，会遇到被人的嘲笑和不解，就让它们都随风而去吧，走自己的路让别人去说吧，我们没有必要把自己宝贵的时间和精力浪费在这上面，时间会证明一切的。还有不要忘记感谢他们，是他们让你更加坚定了走向成功的信念。人要怀有感恩之心，只有这样我们才会不断的走向成功。

无论什么样的经历对于我们短暂的人生来说都是一笔财富，是他们让我们学会了坚强，让我们变的更加成熟。因为我始终坚信：只有经历地狱般的磨练才能炼出创造天堂的力量，只有流过血的手指才能弹出世间的绝唱！

没有做不到，只有想不到

所以我要大声的告诉世界： 我命由我，不由天！！！

杨磊写于2008年3月30日


我的后语：
只有做好准备的人，才能取得真正的胜利

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Controlling your brain

This is amazing...




If you see this lady turning in clockwise you are using your right brain.
If you see it the other way, you are using left brain.
Some people do see both ways, but most people see it only one way.

If you try to see it the other way and if you do see, your IQ is above 160 which is almost a genius.

Then see if you can make her go one way and then the other by shifting the brain's current.

BOTH DIRECTIONS CAN BE SEEN

This was proved at Yale University, over a 5 year study on the human brain and it's functions. Only 14% of the US population can see her move both ways.

Earth Hour on 29 March 2008 8pm - 9pm on KL

Kuala Lumpur, 29th March 2008:
Well done, KL.The major landmarks and corporate headquarters shone through.



See any difference?

None. Still, I am hoping it is ignorance rather than indifference. Big props to the other cities participating in Earth Hour's symbolic but meaningful Global Blackout.

From 12:00 AM on March 29, 2008 until the end of that day, the Google homepage in the United States, Canada, Ireland, Kazakhstan and the UK was turned to a black background. Their tagline is, "We've turned the lights out. Now it's your turn - Earth Hour." Also on their website, Google explained that everyone should turn their lights out from 8:00 P.M. to 9:00 P.M. in your specific local times.



Earth Hour is an international event that asks households and businesses to turn off their lights and non-essential electrical appliances for one hour on the evening of 29 March at 8 pm local time until 9 pm to promote electricity conservation and thus lower carbon emissions.



It is promoted by World Wildlife Fund Australia (WWF), an environmental lobby group, and the Sydney Morning Herald. The first Earth Hour was held in Sydney, Australia between 7:30 pm and 8:30 pm on 31 March 2007. The 2007 Earth Hour is estimated to have cut Sydney's mains electricity consumption by between 2.1% and 10.2% for that hour, with as many as 2.2 million people taking part. Earth Hour 2008 marks the first anniversary of the event with many partner cities and individuals around the world participating.



I sent out more than 200 sms messages to friends and co-workers to informed about the event. Below is the SMS I sent:

Turn off your lights and non-essential electrical appliances for 1 hour on the evening of 29 March 8 - 9 pm. Earth Hour is an international event and check out details at www.earthhour.org for many of Malaysia business, family and individual supporters. Lets join the funs and it's just 1 hour.;-)
/jlim

Just to share, this is my wife and I staying at home with a candle light, enjoying the 1 hour of darkness.

Light is off !!


Photos in various cities:-

How to poison Your Mother-in-Law …

A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all.

Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’ s habits. In addition, she criticised Li-Li constantly.

Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.

All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law’ s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.

Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you. Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do.”

Mr.Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs.
He told Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body.

Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.”

Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr.Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed.

Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn’t had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law’ s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.

Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, “Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She’s changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.”

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitimans to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.”

(Source: sakooter, 2008)

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